On marriage, Linda and Richard Eyre said, "Marriage is about synergy and synchronicity and symbiosis. It is about making each other better and making each other happier. It is more about always making up than about never disagreeing, and it is more about learning together and from each other than about who can win." I agree - there is no room in the bed for competition.
When you feel persecuted or offended, say to yourself, "it's not all about me!" People really are not all focusing on you! They have their own lives, thoughts, feelings and opinions. If they say it or write about it, it's probably about them and to think it to be otherwise is often paranoid delusion! Also, people aren't all talking about you - they are busy with their lives and as I heard Helen Keller quoted, "we wouldn't worry so much about what people think of us if we knew how seldom they do it." If the shoe fits...
For women's history month: A few thoughts by Eleanor Roosevelt (very timely for me):
- "You can never really live anyone else's life, not even your child's. The influence you exert is through your own life, and what you've become yourself."
- "Happiness is not a goal; it's a by-product"
- "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along."
- You must do the things you think you cannot do."
- "You have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that you meet it with courage and with the best that you have to give."