What can be done without adding stress to these people? How can you get out of it when you just keep getting bombarded with people telling you you are doing it wrong?
Conflict Can Affect Your Health
Relationship conflict can negatively affect your health in several ways. Portland State University’s Institute on Aging studied over 650 adults over a two-year period and found that ‘stable negative social exchanges’ (in other words, repetitive or prolonged conflict) was significantly associated with lower self-rated health, greater functional limitations, and a higher number of health conditions. This may be due to the impact that stress has on immunity (stress can dampen your immune system), as well as other factors. The important thing to remember is that ongoing conflict really can take a toll on your health.
.... there is a lack of comfort in dealing with conflict among family members. Whether it’s open conflict over the dinner table or an underlying feeling of discomfort that remains unspoken, family conflict obviously causes a significant amount of stress with a lot of people.
And what about dealing with difficult people from a Christian perspective?
We can't control difficult people and we can't change them, but with God's guidance we can understand them better and find a way to cope with them. More here.I find blogging helps me. Perhaps this is what is being said here:
Sometimes stressful situations can seem to stick with us. Most of us find ourselves ruminating or holding onto negative feelings we have about stressors or conflicts in our lives at one time or another. Unfortunately, this tendency can prolong the stress that we experience. Here are some proven strategies for letting go of rumination, letting go of anger, and holding onto peace.
I need to let go and sometimes you have to get it out. I don't write "at" but I do express my thoughts. Unfortunately some readers internalize what I say and assume it is directed critically at them, or they just think I should do it differently. Maybe being more private about this is better, so I'll probably put more into the private blogs I have and not assume anyone out there really cares anyway. So, instead of people being offended by what I say or feel they need to knit-pick, I can just release it on my own. The blog will be out there but people I know won't have the address. I think they like me better when they don't know what I think/feel. I do need to deal with the stress that is making me ill.