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Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Disgusting!

The judicial system is so messed up. It has nothing to do with right and truth. It's all about the money. If you have enough of it, you have a chance; if not, you're just plain out of luck. If you don't believe it, just look at the high profile cases out there.

Even judges will say they don't bother looking for truth; just find middle ground so it's some kind of compromise.

Furthermore, it's amazing how people will perpetuate a lie and remain in willful ignorance. How can they live with themselves?

Joseph, son of Jacob, was sold into Egypt (betrayed by his own family). He remained true, did what was right and eventually prevailed, but not without much pain, suffering, mental anguish and patience. For some reason Jon, too, is being put through a trial, complete with false witness, betrayal by family members whom he trusted and now he must have patience. It is most unfortunate that his children will suffer eternally for this. And in the short term,

DESPITE ALL THEIR PERSONAL ACCOMPLISHMENTS, CHILDREN THIS AGE BASE MUCH OF THEIR SELF-IMAGE ON HOW THEY AND OTHERS PERCEIVE THEIR PARENTS. A CHILD DESPERATELY NEEDS TO SEE THE GOOD IN HIS PARENTS IN ORDER TO HELP HIM DEFINE THE GOOD IN HIMSELF. JUST AS HE DRAWS STRENGTH FROM KNOWING A PARENT IS WELL THOUGHT OF, SO TOO HE CAN BE HURT BY ANY HINT THAT HE OR SHE IS NOT. A CHILD PERCEIVES ONE PARENT'S -- OR ANY OTHER PERSON'S-- CRITICS OF A PARENT AS A CRITICISM OF HIM, TOO. (Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce -The Sandcastles Way by M. Gary Neuman, L.M.H.C. -creator of the nationally renowned Sandcastles Divorce Therapy Program mandated in family courts nationwide).
This is why the children cannot be subjected to the custodial parent(or her cohorts) putting down the other parent. It's not about the adults; it's about the kids. Why won't the other grandparents care enough to step in and stop the insanity? Why would they perpetuate a lie, hurt the children, in order to protect the adult accuser and the real criminal (long-since dead) who did the damage causing her to project her own past abuse onto her children?

2 comments:

  1. I'm currently reading War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy. Last night I read this line from the book and thought of Jon and Karla and her attempts to make herself feel good by lying about Jon to the courts.

    "Wherever there are laws there will be lies."

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  2. We all need to remember this is ALL of the divorces (and even marriages) in this family. We need to speak only good about each others' children's parents.

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